Prof. Nevzat Tarhan: "There is fear in the background of hopelessness"

President of Üsküdar University Psychiatrist Prof. Nevzat Tarhan made remarkable evaluations on the subject of "Sense of Hope and Human" in the program "Door to Reason with Prof. Nevzat Tarhan" broadcast on Dost TV and Dost FM. Emphasizing that people who fall into a sense of hopelessness have fear in their background, Tarhan said that "They see their past mistakes, their fears about the future, and their feelings today are one of hopelessness. These people always live with wishes, wonders and fears in their lives." Underlining that if a person has a rational belief, they can bear despair, Tarhan emphasized the importance of monotheism.

The past is an experience, today is a gift, the future is an investment...

Pointing out that people who have a sense of hopelessness always live in fear, President of Üsküdar University Psychiatrist Prof. Nevzat Tarhan said that fear exists in the background of hopelessness. Tarhan stated that " They think that ‘The opposite of hope is despair and pessimism. There will be no village or town from me. I am up to no good. Nobody likes me. Nobody cares about me.' These people look at the past, present and future from the wrong angle. They see their past mistakes, their fears about the future, and their feelings today are one of hopelessness. These people always live with wishes, wonders and fears in their lives. Fear is in the background of despair. However, 'The past is like an experience in my life, it is a capital. It is a gift that has come to me today. The future is an investment for me,' then one begins to see what one can hope for. These people are people who are open to innovation, have given resilience training, are patient, highly motivated and hardworking."

“As soon as a person believes that the medicine one is taking is real, they are cured 40 percent."

Explaining the effects of placebo and nocebo effects on the sense of hope, Prof. Nevzat Tarhan stated that "The placebo effect is when you give a person fake starch as a pill and you say, 'This will be good for your headache.' 40 out of 100 people, sometimes even 50, have headaches. Then they give these people a substance that silences the morphine in the body. After the substance, the headaches of those people start again. As soon as a person believes that the drug that they are taking is the real medicine, they are 40 percent cured. Therefore, the patient's trust in the physician is 40 percent more than the patient. If one does not trust the doctor, they start with a 40 percent minus. In some cases, this rate rises to 50-60 percent. If the brain believes, the internal pharmacy activates and the brain secretes internal chemicals. The nocebo effect is when you say to a person, ‘If you take this drug, you are going to get this disease,’ which is the opposite of the placebo effect. If that person believes that it will be, the symptoms of the disease begin. For example, there are male pregnancies. As his wife's belly swells, so does his. They go to the doctor, there is no pregnancy. There is nothing. These are called the Nocebo effect. He has established such an identification with his wife that his brain reacts as if he is going to be pregnant. His belly swells with gas. The brain is sending the wrong message to the body."

"It is not the mistakes that matter, but it is the reactions we react to them"

Stating that when people fall into despair, they may come up with unexpected options, Prof. Nevzat Tarhan underlined the characteristics that should be in a person as follows:

- One should be part of a higher meaning.

- One should have a mental sanctuary.

- One should believe in a high power and value.

- One should be able to think of himself as transcendent.

When a person falls into despair, they come across options that they have never expected, or predicted. When we look at Asma al-Husna, we will make mistakes and commit sins so that the name of Allah 'Ghaffar' will be manifested. We will be ill so that the name of Allah 'Shafi' will be manifested. The important thing is the mistake of what we do, not the mistakes, but the reactions we give to it."

"The ideal man does not prostrate themselves before any power, but only before the Creator of the universe..."

Stating that a person who can trust will not despair, Prof. Tarhan said that "The most important feature of this century is that people worshipped idols in the old centuries, then in Central Asia, we said that our hakans khakans, we sanctified them, in the Ottoman Empire, we said that the sultans knew, we sanctified them, and in the Republic, we called the state father. We have sanctified the state or militarism. At the moment, the point reached in modernism has sanctified the human ego. The ideal man does not prostrate themselves before any power, but only before the Creator of the universe. Rational belief is monotheism. There are also non-rational beliefs, for example, in India and Japan, there are temples of frogs and mice. They also believe, but it is contrary to reason. The only rational belief that is plausible is monotheism. If a person who believes in this monotheism is afraid of events and falls into despair, it means that one does not know their belief, and one does not know it enough. In this age, humanity was able to catch up and understand what the belief in monotheism meant. Before, it was said, 'Be obedient, be comfortable.’ However, in this day and age, it is said, 'Understand the truth, be comfortable.' Question, then obey. That is the real questioned belief. The religion of reason is the religion of monotheism. According to quantum physics, there is an explanation for it. Therefore, if a person has a rational faith, one can bear despair. If one has a belief that is not in accordance with reason, they expect power from reasons, not from God. One expects healing not from God, but from the doctor and medicine. The people of this age have sanctified the causes. The idol of this age is the idol of reasons."

"Life gives its reward to those who can endure"

Stating that the feeling of hope is the emotion that moves people the most, Tarhan said that "In order for a person to be motivated, a person must first need it. If there is a need, the desire is awakened, and when the desire is awakened, there is motivation. One must look for what one needs and hope to find it. First, one should say that my disease needs to be cured, this is my need. Once you understand that you need it, you will have the desire to meet that need. When the desire awakens, a person immediately activates themselves. One must take the right position and wait. It is also important to be able to be resilient and tolerate here. Life gives its reward to those who can endure. Our ancestors said, 'Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.' Patience is not standing aside and waiting, it is active patience, patience on the move. Patience is actually a meditation technique. In other words, it is to comply with the speed and rhythm of nature."

"Keep one foot on the ground and the other foot in dreams"

Drawing attention to Mevlana's Compass Metaphor in his speech, Prof. Tarhan stated that "Keep one foot on the ground and the other foot in dreams. The unreal mind must be deactivated, and when it is not abandoned, those dreams become disappointments, not hopes. Therefore, one leg of the compass is on realism, idealism and activism. Whoever combines these three does not lose hope but activates themselves. A realist makes realistic analyses. It is important to be able to keep those three in balance."

"When a person has no purpose, he has no hope"

Drawing attention to the fact that human life should be used efficiently, Tarhan stated that "The time given to a person is more valuable than money. When money is lost, it is restored, but time is not fulfilled. Therefore, it is necessary to use the time given well. In other words, time is a capital. In this short life, we have a responsibility to use our time efficiently. For this, man must have a constant purpose. When a person has no purpose, one has no hope."

"If you want to raise your child with hope, give him ego ideals"

Emphasizing that the question 'What kind of person do you want to be at the end of your life?' should be made an abstract goal, Prof. Tarhan stated that "If you want to raise your child with hope, give them ego ideals. Give life goals to be strived for, to suffer for, and to make effort for. No one stops a child with goals. At worst, the child says, 'My Lord, I will be reunited,' which is a great test. Fate wants this goal. A patient with cancer said, 'If I am going to die, this life is meaningless. Life must have meaning.' One begins the search for meaning, finds the truth. Oney say, ‘this life has to have meaning.’ That illness causes them to find the meaning of their life and they say that the creator of this universe must have a purpose. This order is not created without a purpose, it is a perfect system.”

"If a person focuses on things he cannot control, he easily falls into despair"

Stating that, one should be able to distinguish between what they are able to do and what they are not capable of for a person to have a high sense of hope, Prof. Nevzat Tarhan expressed that "The goal of preparing for death and the aftermath in our belief system keeps hope alive even in the most difficult circumstances. A person who has hope in life is a person who is able to be hopeful in every environment. In positive psychology, it is called authentic happiness. It is like pure bliss. There is no equivalent of the word ‘huzur’ in English, they use 'peace' for ‘huzur’. However, the word peace is not the same as the word peace. In our culture, there is the word peace. Happiness is not the same as peace. A person is happy when they eat a chocolate bar. Huzur is huzurwhen one believes that what one loves is happy with will not run away, will not be lost, and is eternal. As soon as a person thinks that they will lose what he values and loves, that happiness becomes temporary and the fear of loss, the fear of not being able to control it, begins. To be hopeful, one must be able to distinguish between what is in one's power and what one cannot control. If a person focuses on what they cannot control and cannot manage, they will easily fall into despair."

"People who are hopeful are open to criticism"

Stating that insecure people are afraid of criticism, Tarhan concluded his remarks as follows: "Traumas, mistakes, life events, negative experiences are part of growing up. Criticism is a gift, if it is useful and you use it. If it is useless, you move on. Being open to criticism is the most important part of growing up. People who are hopeful and self-confident are open to criticism. A person who lacks self-confidence is afraid of criticism. A hopeful person is open to surprises. A person who is closed to surprises is self-isolated, living in a capsule. A person, who knows their place, knows their Lord. Let's reach our limits, let's know the limits of our own power."

 

Üsküdar News Agency (ÜNA)